Today I’m going back on my Anti-Depressants

I weaned myself off anti-depressants about 18 months ago. After six years, I wanted to see if I was able to manage my depression naturally. I was in a safe and happy place in my life and trusted that I would have all of the support I needed to help me on that journey.

I have been mindful of my diet, I have kept moving and I’ve made sure I get fresh air and sunshine. In the lead up to coming off my anti-depressants, I kept good track of my emotions and my triggers. I took note of how I felt at different times and how different things affected me.

This time has been crucial in understanding how my head works and what I can do to manage it. I feel like I know myself really well now and that’s really important to me.

And that’s also why I have chosen to go back on my medication.

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For the most part, life has been really good. Day to day, I can’t really complain outside the usual stresses of family life. I’m mostly happy.

But man, I’m tired.

I have to work really hard to remind myself it’s not permanent, these feelings will pass and I’m still a good person. But I also have to really fight to keep my head above water. I have to fight to remember that I’m worth something and that I mean something to other people. During these times, I struggle to remember that I have value in the world.

And I’m just over it.

Though these really bad patches are few and far between, I still feel like I’m facing little struggles every day. Things that maybe don’t need to be the way they are. Things that cause me to overthink and drain my energy without me even realising it. When I take something out of context, when I’m not able to make decisions or recall details – that’s my depression.

A major and ongoing part of my illness is memory loss. This is the biggest battle I face every day because it makes me unreliable, and as a mother (to me) – that’s something I just can’t be.

Increasingly, I feel like I’m spending a lot of energy fighting a battle that just doesn’t need to be fought. I know now that I CAN live without my medication but I have a war in my mind.

Can you imagine that? Can you imagine what it’s like to try to parent when it takes you 10 minutes just to get the milk out of the fridge. Or how it feels to convince yourself your husband is going to leave you because why the fuck would he want you anyway? Or how truly crazy you feel when you suddenly develop an irrational fear of cleaning the oven or listening to female vocalists or using steel forks in ceramic bowls or anything else that’s equally ridiculous but is very, very real to you.

I want to make things easier for myself.

So today, I’m going back on my anti-depressants. While I know this doesn’t “cure” my depression or “fix” my anxiety, it does help me manage it. It helps me conserve my energy for more important things.

I know I will still have good days and bad days; I will still get stressed and I will still feel anxious and frustrated at times because I’m alive and that’s normal.

But this helps me see things for what they truly are. It will help me realise that driving somewhere unfamiliar isn’t actually as scary as my head tells me it is or that I won’t actually die if I get stuck in a crowd. When I’m trapped under my blankets because I’ve woken up in a world where shit is bad and no one likes me; it will help me to hold onto the idea that the world is good and I’ll be OK soon.

Depression is not an emotion. It’s not a mood.

Anxiety is not just a feeling. It’s an illness that I’m treating.

I’m not going to deny my family the best version of myself because of the stigma that comes with being medicated. Not everyone has to understand or agree with my choice but I don’t care about that because not everyone can understand what its like to live with mental illness. Medication might not work for everyone, but it does work for some. It’s taken me a fair amount of trial and error, but I’ve found something that works for me and that is what’s important. I know I can be better. I don’t want to hold myself back with negative thinking and self-doubt. I want to feel motivated again. I want to be, do, and achieve as much as I am able to and if I need medication to help me accomplish that, then that’s OK.

One thought on “Today I’m going back on my Anti-Depressants

  1. I’ve been on anti depressants for quite a few years now and previously throughout my teenage years. I accidently came off them recently because I ran out of prescription and just went about my mornings forgetting that I wasn’t taking my happy pill. Within weeks I came crashing down and finally put two and two together, I felt so awful, nautious, vertigo, no energy, spinning. I went back to my Dr and he gave me a stern talking too but we also agreed, I most likely will have to be on these indefinitely, and you know what? I am totally fine with that now. This is part of my life. I tell people, I share, I own it and I don’t care anymore what people think. I think the biggest part of our mental health journey is not convincing others that “its ok” but convincing ourselves…………..finally accepting it as an on-going part of my life has been SOOO freeing and like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

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